Minneapolis Estate Planning and Probate Lawyer Blog
Monday, June 6, 2011
You may have noticed a slight change in my firm name. Unique Family Law is now known as Unique Estate Law.
I have always focused on unique families and continue that passion. My new firm name better explains what I do for your unique family. I focus on estate planning, probate and adoption – building and protecting families.
I am proud to specialize in this important and ever-changing area and my new name reflects that focus.
I want to be sure that you, my clients, know where my expertise lies.
Welcome to Unique Estate Law.
Monday, May 30, 2011
My website and posts are geared to the so-called “nontraditional family” and nontraditional estate planning. But just what does that mean? I use the term – for lack of anything better – to define any family that does not fall into the 1950s model of a family with one husband and one wife who are on their first marriage and who only have children born to both of them.
Is That Still a Valid Definition of a Traditional Family?
According to Webster’s dictionary the term traditional means “?cultural continuity in social attitudes, customs, and institutions.” But, with regard to family, there doesn’t seem to be any cultural continuity that “survived” from the 1950s to the present.
Do you even know a “traditional family?” If that question causes you to stop and think or say “Ha! I do know one” then you know it’s no longer the “tradition” of our society to get married once to someone of the opposite sex and only have children with that person during the marriage.
Our society is in a state of flux with the rise of cohabitation, single parents, stepfamilies, gay families, transgender families, adopted families and multi-generational families. The changing times are reflected in the numerous studies recently released as they demonstrate a lack of cultural cohesion regarding social norms and families. This is true on both the national level and in states such as mine.
The Changing Definition of Family
According to data released from the 2010 US Census, only 48.8% of households in Minnesota’s major metropolitan area were married couples. A Pew Research Center survey released at the end of 2010 showed a similar decline in the population of married households.
The Pew results also revealed an ever-widening generation gap and marital status. In 1960 a whopping 60% of all people in their 20s were married. But in 2008 that number dropped to just 26%. The most recent census data shows a similar decline in the percentage of married households in the nation as the overall numbers dropped from 70% in 1950 to 54% 2010.
The Pew Research Center conducted another interesting and relevant survey on stepfamilies at the beginning of 2011. According to the survey, more than four-in-10 American adults have at least one step relatives and their family. Of the two, 691 adults participating in the survey, 42% have at least one step relative, 33% have a step or half sibling, 18% have a living stepparent, and 13% have at least one stepchild.
Multi-statistics show that marriage has declined, cohabitation has become more widespread-doubling since 1980 Another notable statistic is that births to unmarried women has risen from just 5% in 1960 to 41% in 2008.
The pew research Center conducted another interesting and relevant survey on stepfamilies at the beginning of 2011. According to the survey, more than four-in-10 American adults have at least one step relatives and their family. Of the two, 691 adults participating in the survey, 42% have at least one step relative, 33% have a step or half sibling, 18% have a living stepparent, and 13% have at least one stepchild.
While these studies show that the general make-up of families are changing, what about popular views on the definition of family? My next post will discuss how current studies show that those too are changing.
When I first drafted this post the Census Bureau had only released state-specific data on marital status. The Bureau has now released data for the country as a whole. This newly released data shows that, for the first time, married couples now constitute less than half of all households in the United States. According to the data, married couples represented just 48% of American households in 2010 versus 78% in 1950.
Further, only one fifth of households fell into the oft-used definition of traditional families – married with children – as opposed to 43% in 1950. So, is it still appropriate to use the term “traditional” to represent a mere 20% of the population? But it will take time for society to accept the term non-traditional to refer to an opposite sex married couple with no prior marriages or children.
I look forward to a time where clients no longer find me by searching “non-traditional family” but instead simply look for “family.”
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
You realize that you need to get a health care directive. But how do you create a valid one? A health care directive is a written document that informs other of your wishes about your health care by allowing you to name a person (“agent”) to make medical decisions for you if you are unable to make them.
How Do You Make a Health Care Directive?
Your health care directive must meet the following requirementsto be legal:
Be in writing and dated.
State your name.
Be signed by you or someone you authorize to sign for you, when you can understand and communicate your health care wishes.
Have your signature verified by a notary public or two witnesses.
Include the appointment of an agent to make health care decisions for you and/or instructions about the health care choices you wish to make.
What Can You Put in a Health Care Directive?
You have many choices of what to put in your health care directive. For example, you may include:
The person you trust as your agent to make health care decisions for you. You can name alternative agents in case the first agent is unavailable, or joint agents.
Your goals, values and preferences about health care.
The types of medical treatment you would want (or not want).
How you want your agent or agents to decide.
Where you want to receive care.
Instructions about artificial nutrition and hydration.
Mental health treatments that use electroshock therapy or neuroleptic medications.
Instructions if you are pregnant.
Donation of organs, tissues and eyes.
Who you would like as your guardian or conservator if there is a court action.
You may be as specific or as general as you wish. You can choose which issues or treatments to deal with in your health care directive.
Is there Anything You Can’t Put In a Health Care Directive?
There are some limits about what you can put in your health care directive. For instance:
You cannot request health care treatment that is outside of reasonable medical practice.
You cannot request assisted suicide.
You can’t appoint anyone under the age of 18 as your agent.
Creating a legal health care directive can be emotional but it’s not technically difficult. Please see a lawyer and get one now to avoid causing your family more time and expense later.
photo credit: Official U.S. Navy Imagery
Friday, May 20, 2011
When I had surgery a couple years ago I was lucky enough to live in a city where my relationship with my former partner was respected by the hospital staff. The hospital employees didn’t bat an eyelash when my partner accompanied me through all phases of the experience, except the surgery itself. Further, the doctor came and found her in the waiting room to provide her with an update after the surgery was complete. Of course, it only takes one hospital employee to destroy that respect no matter where you live.
In the past, an employee could refuse your partner access to you during your hospital stay. Fortunately, that is no longer the case for any hospital accepting federal funds. The Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services department (CMS), at Pres. Obama’s urging, issued new rules effective January 23, 2011, that grant you the right to choose your visitors.
The new CMS rules require hospitals to explain that you have the right to choose who may visit you without regard to whether the visitor is a family member, spouse or domestic partner. Beware: while many people with whom I’ve spoken believe that these new rules ensure access by their chosen loved one, it is only effective if you are conscious enough to name your visitor. So, what happens if you are unconscious? How will you be able to let the hospital no which of your loved ones should have access to you?
In addition, these rules only allow your partner access to you. They do not allow your partner to make medical decisions on your behalf. The only ways in which another may make medical decisions on your behalf is either through court appointment or healthcare directive. In the former, your partner will be forced to go to court and obtain the court’s approval before the hospital will follow her wishes. But, if you have a valid health care directive appointing another person to act as your agent, the agent has the right to step into your shoes and speak on your behalf.
The next few posts will discuss the particulars on drafting a valid medical directive.
So, whether you live in a city that respects your relationship, you must still execute a valid health care directive now!
Thursday, May 5, 2011
I recently met with a client who informed me that her daughter had financial power over her matters. ”You mean she has a power of attorney?” I inquired.
She responded that “No. She has signing authority on my accounts.”
After several more questions I discovered that her daughter was a joint account holder on her mother’s checking and savings accounts. My client explained that she added her daughter to the accounts to ensure that someone could handle her financial matters in the event of incapacitation. She further explained that her desire was the daughter could use these accounts while Mom was alive and then at death the assets would go into her estate and be evenly divided among her 4 children.
Unfortunately, that is not how joint bank accounts work.
Joint bank accounts have become a common way for those caught in the sandwich generation to ensure their ability to handle the financial matters of a loved one. They are also the method of choice for many unmarried couples to attempt to mirror the financial rights of their married counterparts. For instance, when one half of a married couple dies, the surviving spouse will be granted the right to any money remaining in a bank account held only in the name of the deceased spouse. The same happens upon the death of a joint bank account holder.
While joint bank accounts are an answer to problems associated with lack of access to another’s bank account, they may not be the best answer.
Problems with Joint Bank Accounts
The following is a list of problems associated with adding someone to your account.
That person now has all of the same rights to that money as you. They can write checks, withdraw money and use it for any purpose without your permission or ability to get it back.
Upon your death the money in that account will go directly to the joint account holder. You may not change this by using a will as joint title holder with always trump your will. Remember that a will is only used for those assets that are titled only in your name or where the court needs to assist in determining the rightful owner.
Creditors may come after the bank account for any debt owed by anyone on the account. So, if you open an account with your daughter or partner, and she defaults on a loan, the creditor may come after this account regardless of whether you had anything to do with that loan.
A Power of Attorney. Simply adding someone to your bank account may seem the simplest action to take – right now – but it can lead to the above-listed problems. A simple way for my client to grant someone access to her financial matters is to execute a valid Power of Attorney. Mom may then be assured that someone has the ability to handle her bank accounts, bills and government benefits but without the drawbacks listed. As noted in my earlier series on Powers of Attorney, the POA ends at death. So, upon Mom’s death the money in those two bank accounts will be included in her estate and may be evenly spit among her children.
A Trust. I explained that a trust will take care of the majority of these issues with only a bit more hassle. Mom may set it up so that she is the trustee of her trust until incapacity or death at which time her daughter takes over as trustee. This allows for a seemless transition whereby the daughter has the ability to handle Mom’s financial needs and manage any assets within the trust. If Mom recovers, she will again become the trustee over her own trust. If not, the sucessor trustee takes over after death.
Monday, April 11, 2011
Recognizing the aging nature of medical care, several hospitals have created emergency rooms specifically designated for older adults. The so-called “senior emergency rooms” include such things as handrails on the walls, nonskid floors, thicker mattresses, softer lighting and larger clocks.
But I don’t want my readers thinking that hospital administrators have turned all soft, warm and fuzzy. No, they admittedly recognize that hospital that fail to attract the growing population of aging adults will lose out on a large piece of the increasingly competitive medical pie. The hospitals admit that they have to attract the aging population or . . . die.
These changes aren’t just “cosmetic” but also relate to the actual diagnosis of patients. One hospital provides cognitive screening upon check in to help identify conditions that might have been missed in a traditional E.R. Of course, it isn’t really clear why hospitals haven’t always done everything possible to identify conditions upon a patient’s entrance into the E.R.
And why are these new measures used only to attract the aging population? Does this mean that I have to resign myself to blinding light, slippery floors and flimsy mattresses until I get my AARP card?
Thursday, April 7, 2011
This post concludes the series on choosing a guardian for your child by discussing when you should discuss your decisions with those closest to you. Presumably, you are very familiar with the person you’ve identified to be your child’s guardian. That makes you uniquely qualified to pick the proper time and format for talking to them about your decision.
The person you choose will want to follow your wishes as much as possible so please take the time to communicate them now.
One way to discuss these issues with your family, friends and chosen advisors is to break them down into small discussions. Instead of making time for a 3 hour conversation about the decisions you’ve made perhaps you could start with a talk about why your chosen guardian is important to you and what led you to chose that person for such a crucial role. Then you can have a follow-up conversation to talk about your hopes and wishes for your child which led you to choosing a guardian.
Chances are you will both (all) be uncomfortable and you have no control over other people’s reaction to what you’re going to say. So why not handle the details over which you do have control? You are asking others to listen to the most important decisions you may have to make in your life, so treat them well and lighten the mood a bit. Pick a favorite place (restaurant, park or beach) and have some food and wine (beer) while discussing these difficult topics.
While these subjects are crucial and you want to be able to convey every hope and dream you have for your child in one big meeting, keep in mind that it the subject matter is heavy and uncomfortable. And remember, if the person with whom you’re speaking looks off and says, “look, a school bus,” it may be a good time to schedule another meeting to pick up where this one left off.
photo credit: mars-hill
Monday, April 4, 2011
This post continues my series on choosing a guardian for your child(ren). You know how to choose someone to (or not to) raise your child and discussed your decision with the person(s) whom you chose. But you want to be sure to do everything possible to avoid future conflict if anything should happen to you. In that case, I would also suggest explaining your decisions to any important family and/or friends.
Why you made your choices. This allows you to do everything you can to cut down on future conflicts. If something happens and you have left your child to your best friend, family members may wonder why and put up a fight. But, if you explain to your family why you made your choices (location, age, values) then they will not be surprised when it happens and may even understand why you made these choices.
Plans for future visits. This goes with the point above in that you can explain that you have made it clear to the guardian that you want them to continue with regular visits with your child.
What you discussed with your agents. Clarify the list of discussion topics from the above list so that your family also know and understand your wishes for your child’s future.
Discuss your decisions with your child(ren). If you have children that are older, you may want to explain to them who you have chosen to help them through life if anything happens to you. In most cases you will have picked someone they know well and they will understand that choice. Again, it will cut down on any confusion later. If something happens to you, your children will already know where they are going and why.
Letters of explanation. Write a letter to each person whom you believe will be impacted by your choices. This list may include your financial and medical agents, guardian(s), family members, child and/or friends. These can be given out by your attorney at the time specified by you and will allow people to understand your choices at a time when it is crucial that they “get it.”
Providing an explanation of your decisions provides your family and friends with the knowledge that you took the time to come up with a well-though-out plan to provide for the future of your kids. Who knows? That may be enough to avoid future conflict, especially for estate plans for blended or gay families.
photo credit: mikecogh
Monday, March 21, 2011
After the death of the Owner, the following documents must be filed with the county recording office in which the Transfer on Death Deed was originally recorded:
An Affidavit of Identity and Survivorship, which identifies that the Grantee Beneficiary or Beneficiaries survived the deaths of all Owners by at least 120 hours.
Certified Copies of Death Certificates for each Owner.
A Medical Assistance Clearance Certificate issued by the county agency in which the real property is located for each Owner.
Thursday, March 17, 2011
You own property in your name alone and want to be sure that it goes to the beneficiary of your choice without the expense and delay of probate. So, you decide to use a Transfer on Death Deed (“TODD”) to achieve this purpose.
But what happens if you change your mind after you have executed and filed the deed with the county? Can you cancel or change the TODD?
Yes. The Deed does not do anything to your rights over the property during your lifetime. It only takes affect upon your death. Therefore, nothing is set in stone until after death. You may, at any time, change the beneficiary or cancel the deed altogether.
From within Hennepin County Unique Estate Law represents clients throughout Minnesota, including Minneapolis, Edina, Bloomington, St. Louis Park, Minnetonka, Plymouth, Wayzata, Maple Grove, St. Paul, and Brooklyn Park.